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erotic researcher, artist & intimacy consultant

bucket list
How do I prioritize my desires?
I spend my life learning about the things I love (sex, people, patterns, food), and when I’m inspired by a want-to-do, I try to remember to write it down.
When I discover something I want to do in the next year or find an item I love to do and want to do again, it makes the top-priority list.
This list.

I’m working on a very long-term documentary project about desire, and it will be full of mini-projects along the way.
Many of the below items have been experienced, but my wish with this bucket list project is to commemorate the things I love.
I love to connect over honest, personal experience, and my hope in sharing is mutual joy and delicious learnings for us all—so we can lead happily-laid lives.
Want to collaborate?
See details below.
(this is, of course, a work in progress)
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document this list in beautiful ways & share
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helicopter tour over (anywhere)
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over-the-water tropical cabana with a glass table so i can see fishies swim below
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bolivian salt flats during the rainy season
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antarctica
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egypt & the pyramids
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northern lights
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art gallery show for my circles
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fun hot educational sex/creativity ed content
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play with all fun-looking sex toys & creativity tools (see list)
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publish erotic memoirlette
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publish SFW-passing sci fi fantasy novel
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in-person tantra class
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in-person dance class
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in-person standup class
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cliff side hot tub
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soak in as many natural hot springs as possible (see list)
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whole airplane sex party
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play with fuck machines
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thigh sex to orgasm
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spanking to orgasm
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photograph and/or film frotting
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do it in an elevator
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head in a hot air balloon
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in or on a plane (esp: in a fancy compartment)
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on the beach
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prioritize partners with chrematistophilia
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play with a partner with foot fetish (shoe shopping, pedi, footie at dinner under the white linen tablecloth)
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sleep next to a partner with somnophilia
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serve worthy Top who loves sharing and reclaiming me
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partner with (a) long-term collaborator(s) in work and/or life
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prioritize partners with a massage fetish
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giantess / micro / macro fetish photo & film shoot
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bareback / "breeding"
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cum in all holes on the same day
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sex in the sun
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sex in clothes
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fuck with cold objects
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double penetration w live cocks!!!!!
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double vaginal penetration
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play dress-up / cross-dress a partner
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latex dress-up & play
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naughty nurse role play
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robot role play
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alien role play
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statue sex
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vac bed
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plastic wrap mummification
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masochism
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sensation play
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sensory deprivation
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triple penetration
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receive a brand or body modification as a mark of "ownership"
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anal sex
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anal training
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squirting
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bimboification
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biting
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blindfolded sex
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body inflation play: penis pump
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body inflation play: pussy pump
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breast and nipple torture
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breast and nipple worship
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breath play: risk-aware choking
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chastity, denial and extended edging
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collaring
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degradation
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dirty talk
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discipline
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electro play
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face slapping
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flogging
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full body restraint
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impact
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rimming
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spanking
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strap-on penetration
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orgasm control: teasing, edging, denial
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master Jerk Off Instructions (JOI)
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receive bite marks
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receive marks from one type of impact at a time (spanks, paddle, flogger, cane, switch, lollipop) and document the various objects
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give face sitting
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receive face / throat fucking
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give (tantric!) pussy worship
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receive pussy worship
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receive a gangbang
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give (tantric!) cock worship
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receive strap-on cock worship
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consensual voyeurism
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phone sex
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learn to administer impact play (see list)
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research legal full service sex work
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research panty selling
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take more rope / shibari / kinbaku classes
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research sensation play
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research sexual surrogacy
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research stripping
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find/participate in/enjoy a kinky community
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prioritize erotic photography work
(what
am I missing?)
(what's on yours?)
(where is our overlap?)
PROFESSIONAL CONTENT CREATORS:
let's collaborate
tell me about yourself (our overlap + links to socials & following) here.
PROs-in-PROGRESS:
let me help you get your content started
tell me about yourself (hopes, goals, dreams) here.
AFFICIONADOS:
let me support your growth
tell me about yourself (intimate desires) here.
ADMIRERS:
who are primarily interested in hitting on me
tell me about yourself (wildest fantasies, please) here.