bucket list

How do I prioritize my desires?

I spend my life learning about the things I love (sex, people, patterns, food), and when I’m inspired by a want-to-do, I try to remember to write it down.

When I discover something I want to do in the next year or find an item I love to do and want to do again, it makes the top-priority list.

This list.

I’m working on a very long-term documentary project about desire, and it will be full of mini-projects along the way.

Many of the below items have been experienced, but my wish with this bucket list project is to commemorate the things I love.

I love to connect over honest, personal experience, and my hope in sharing is mutual joy and delicious learnings for us all—so we can lead happily-laid lives.

Want to collaborate?

See details below.

(this is, of course, a work in progress)

document this list in beautiful ways & share
helicopter tour over (anywhere)
over-the-water tropical cabana with a glass table so i can see fishies swim below
bolivian salt flats during the rainy season
antarctica
egypt & the pyramids
northern lights
art gallery show for my circles
fun hot educational sex/creativity ed content
play with all fun-looking sex toys & creativity tools (see list)
publish erotic memoirlette
publish SFW-passing sci fi fantasy novel
in-person tantra class
in-person dance class
in-person standup class
cliff side hot tub
soak in as many natural hot springs as possible (see list)
whole airplane sex party
play with fuck machines
thigh sex to orgasm
spanking to orgasm
photograph and/or film frotting
do it in an elevator
head in a hot air balloon
in or on a plane (esp: in a fancy compartment)
on the beach
prioritize partners with chrematistophilia
play with a partner with foot fetish (shoe shopping, pedi, footie at dinner under the white linen tablecloth)
sleep next to a partner with somnophilia
serve worthy Top who loves sharing and reclaiming me
partner with (a) long-term collaborator(s) in work and/or life
prioritize partners with a massage fetish
giantess / micro / macro fetish photo & film shoot
bareback / "breeding"
cum in all holes on the same day
sex in the sun
sex in clothes
fuck with cold objects
double penetration w live cocks!!!!!
double vaginal penetration
play dress-up / cross-dress a partner
latex dress-up & play
naughty nurse role play
robot role play
alien role play
statue sex
vac bed
plastic wrap mummification
masochism
sensation play
sensory deprivation
triple penetration
receive a brand or body modification as a mark of "ownership"
anal sex
anal training
squirting
bimboification
biting
blindfolded sex
body inflation play: penis pump
body inflation play: pussy pump
breast and nipple torture
breast and nipple worship
breath play: risk-aware choking
chastity, denial and extended edging
collaring
degradation
dirty talk
discipline
electro play
face slapping
flogging
full body restraint
impact
rimming
spanking
strap-on penetration
orgasm control: teasing, edging, denial
master Jerk Off Instructions (JOI)
receive bite marks
receive marks from one type of impact at a time (spanks, paddle, flogger, cane, switch, lollipop) and document the various objects
give face sitting
receive face / throat fucking
give (tantric!) pussy worship
receive pussy worship
receive a gangbang
give (tantric!) cock worship
receive strap-on cock worship
consensual voyeurism
phone sex
learn to administer impact play (see list)
research legal full service sex work
research panty selling
take more rope / shibari / kinbaku classes
research sensation play
research sexual surrogacy
research stripping
find/participate in/enjoy a kinky community
prioritize erotic photography work