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C O M M U N I C A T I O N   G U I D E

 

Clear, explicit, literal communication is the kind I understand best. 

I typically get confused by euphemism, the opposite game humans seem so fond of, "you-" statements that are really sneaky "I-" statements, and meaningless phrases that do not contain clearly identifiable information or emotion. If I ask questions, it's because I am confused, not because I am judging you. I don't understand secret criticisms or secret mads, but they are the #1 reason I avoid people and parties.

 

Speak only about your own experiences. 

We are here to celebrate and learn from one another's experiences and to noodle on human feelings, not to preach or teach or gossip or blame.

 

Keep it sex-positive, curious, open-minded & safe. 

If it's legal and consensual, don't yuck someone else's yum, and certainly don't expect me to agree with you.

 

Remain respectful. 

Make sure you've read this list, ask instead of assuming a boundary, and if one is offered to you, accept it kindly. I will not attack you, but I may offer a reframe – this is challenging for people if they forget that I'm just trying to make the world a more loving place.

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Keep your fantasies about me & anyone in my sphere to yourself.

Including podcast guests, my friends you think are hot, etc. And keep genitals covered. 

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Err on the side of checking in.

Practice using your sexy words if you have a question that isn't answered by the above guidelines.

 

Boundary pushing, rudeness, and agreement breaches result in blocking.

Please do not mistake my love for sex and friendliness for a desire to have sex with you, and please don't take this personally. Yes, I have crushes on most people, but crushes do not a good idea make.

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CONTACT

 

Note:

Most of your questions are answered by poking the relevant links on this site.โ€‹

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I answer email on an artist's schedule.

I prioritize photography clients who have clearly read the photography page & urgent billing issues; beyond that, I don't topple my life to be on your schedule.

 

If you truly need to speak with me urgently, book a one-on-one

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Thank you for understanding.

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re: Sex Stories  ///  re: All Other Creations

Yay! I can't wait to make art with you.

I'm a creator & performer based in downtown Los Angeles.

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I love art/working (especially with friends & fellow creatives), circles, being naked, asking very personal questions, croissants, Robert Heinlein, and staring at the moon.

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Frequently asked questions

Why? Oh.

Why are you naked?


Short answer: Being naked brings me joy. Longer answer: I really squished most of my artist parts down until I was almost 27. I finished (what I vowed would be) my last-ever producing job, shaved my head, and bought a one-way ticket to South America, hoping to figure out what it would look like to overhaul my life into one I actually enjoyed living. It was on this literal and figurative journey that I started doing nude self-portraits โ€“ I actually canโ€™t find any nude selfies of me pre-27. For two years, they were just for me; a project of self-love. I have since discovered: people care about hair a lot, a lot a lot, and will talk to me about my hair at great length no matter how short of long it is. In 2018, my good friend Kira declared that 80-year-old her was going to think 30-year-old-her is banginโ€™ just as I was approaching my 29th birthday, and I realized: I LOVE MY NUDES. It was time to share them.




Do you imagine the entire world as a backdrop for nude shoots?


If only there weren't people around who would be offended? Yes oh yes, yes, yes.




Are you an exhibitionist?


Nope. I'm too consent-oriented, and the thought of accidetnally forcing anyone to witness anything they didn't choose is the opposite of a turn-on for me.




Are you a nudist/naturist?


Opportunistically, sure, culturally, I don't know enough about either movement to say. I don't go out of my way to find nude-only spaces, but I do hope to visit more of them someday, it's just not my top priority (like, I'd rather make a movie than vacation on a nude beach somewhere, though if I could combine the two, that would be ideal). I just like being naked when it's comfy & allowed, and I think taking naked photos in places people don't normally find naked people is funny.




You're publicly nude...so are you a sex worker?


No, nudity โ‰  sex work by default, though the fact that so many complete strangers operate with this mistaken assumption is, I would argue, all the more reason we need to understand nudity outside of sexual contexts. Just to be very very clear: I don't do porn. I don't cam. You cannot pay me to touch you in any way, shape or form. I DO, however, offer creative (sexual) consults, erotic fantasy writing, and nude or erotic photo shoots. Scroll up for details. If you've accidentally attempted to treat me like a free sex worker already, feel free to apologize via venmo/cashapp: @wyohlee / $wyohlee And duh, sex work should totall be legal, and one of my life goals is to replace "sex worker" with "sexual artist" a la Robert. A Heinlein.




Why do you wiggle every day?


The short answer:

  • It's a literal body-positive movement that I find incredibly delightful and silly, especially in contrast to my sexier nudes
  • It's a personal challenge for me to practice showing up publicly every day (live-streaming is actually *not* remotely comfy for me)
  • It's my every day committment to my wiggle movie, which is 4 projects deep on my backburner, but will arrive in time
  • Even on days that feel terrible, when I am exhausted, I can't help but smile
The long answer: February 12th, 2019 I am exhausted. I'd just finished a freelance video project, it was the busiest month for headshots, I'm six weeks into recording/editing/doing nude shoots for weekly episodes of Sex Stories on top of The Radiance Project, the other pod I produce and edit weekly. And I was finally getting auditions for pilot season. โ€‹ But, uncharacteristically for me, I am feeling like I actually want to move my body. She is stagnant. She needs it. โ€‹ My friend Lola had been telling me about her daily bare minimum of physical exercise: wall sits, while she brushes her teeth. I am tired, it's late late late at night, I am brushing my teeth and decide that tonight is the night: I WILL DO A WALL SIT. โ€‹ I made it less than 5 seconds. My body was like, nope. So while I brushed my teeth, staring at the rings under my eyes, feeling lumpy, I decided I would do my own bare minimum, and just move a little bit. โ€‹ I began to wiggle. โ€‹ It made me laugh so much. So so much. Wiggling led to giggling, and I was slap-happy. Wiggle-happy. The way my wiggly parts moved was utterly delightful. Embarrassing, maybe, because...my stomach and arms and thighs...should they be flapping around that much? But in that moment, even as I was trying to judge myself and use this as evidence that I *must* really get serious about working out, I could help but love my wiggly parts. They make me smile. They made me want to move more! Why hadn't I wiggled sooner? โ€‹ And then I got sad; these are not the parts of my body that I'm "supposed" to love or show off, at least based on the messaging from most beauty / health / wellness /lifestyle brands; there's (WOO HOOO!!!) starting to be some exceptions, but I noticed that even in my own brain, with my own very-real wiggly joy present, I felt shy about sharing my wigglejoy in public. But then I thought, โ€‹ What if wiggling took over the world...? โ€‹ And just like that, my body-positive sci-fi horror musical comedy (think Little Shop of Horrors meets Rocky Horror Picture Show) about an alien who crash-lands on Earth, accidentally releasing a seemingly unstoppable wiggle virus, was born. โ€‹ My work on the wiggle movie is currently on pause (again); by necessity, writing indie features has to be lower down on my list of artist priorities than the arts that help me feed myself, and the fact that this one kiiiiind of hinges upon a worldwide pandemic (spoiler alert: it's not a virus, it's alien technology that, yes, humans WILL harness) has led me to backburner it once again. โ€‹ But I am a big believer in The 15-Second Principle, and also a big believer in doing things that make me feel shy and embarrassed in an effort to make friends with my scareds. โ€‹ So now I wiggle every day, on instagram, live. โ€‹ I started on my 30th birthday; after a year of wiggling solo every day, I'm inviting wigglefriends to join me. Sign up ahead of time, or if I don't have a guest for the day, whoever requests to be in my video first while I'm live shall be The One. โ€‹ #wigglepower is a literal body-positive movement.




What do you mean, you "wiggle every day?"


I mean, I have been wiggling every day since my 30th birthday.




Why did you shave your head?


Because I'm extremely practical and don't care about hair that much.




Should I introduce myself with a dick pic?


Would you whip your cock out to say hello to a stranger you think is cute at the grocery store? Hopefully your answer is no, never. NO. Don't do it through the internet, either. Not to me, not to anyone, except maybe a sex worker who you are *already paying* and who has a clear invitation that they're open to that.




How SHOULD I talk to you, then?


Thank you so much for asking! Wyoh's Communication Guidelines: โ€‹ Clear, explicit, literal communication is the kind I understand best. I typically get confused by euphemism, the opposite game humans seem so fond of, "you-" statements that are really sneaky "I-" statements, and meaningless phrases that do not contain clearly identifiable information or emotion. If I ask questions, it's because I am confused, not because I am judging you. I don't understand secret criticisms or secret mads, but they are the #1 reason I avoid people and parties. Speak only about your own experiences. We are here to celebrate and learn from one another's experiences and to noodle on human feelings, not to preach or teach or gossip or blame. โ€‹โ€‹ Keep it sex-positive, curious, open-minded & safe. If it's legal and consensual, don't yuck someone else's yum, and certainly don't expect me to agree with you. Remain respectful. Make sure you've read this list, ask instead of assuming a boundary, and if one is offered to you, accept it kindly. I will not attack you, but I may offer a reframe โ€“ this is challenging for people if they forget that I'm just trying to make the world a more loving place. โ€‹โ€‹ Keep your fantasies about me & anyone involved in my sphere to yourself, including podcast guests, my friends you think are hot, etc. And keep genitals covered. โ€‹ Please err on the side of checking in, and practice using your sexy words if you have a question that isn't answered by the above guidelines. โ€‹ Please do not mistake my love for sex and friendliness for a desire to have sex with *you.* Boundary pushing, rudeness, and agreement breaches result in blocking. I encourage all humans to spend their time and energy engaging with people and things they love.





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