C O M M U N I C A T I O N G U I D E
Clear, explicit, literal communication is the kind I understand best.
I typically get confused by euphemism, the opposite game humans seem so fond of, "you-" statements that are really sneaky "I-" statements, and meaningless phrases that do not contain clearly identifiable information or emotion. If I ask questions, it's because I am confused, not because I am judging you. I don't understand secret criticisms or secret mads, but they are the #1 reason I avoid people and parties.
Speak only about your own experiences.
We are here to celebrate and learn from one another's experiences and to noodle on human feelings, not to preach or teach or gossip or blame.
Keep it sex-positive, curious, open-minded & safe.
If it's legal and consensual, don't yuck someone else's yum, and certainly don't expect me to agree with you.
Make sure you've read this list, ask instead of assuming a boundary, and if one is offered to you, accept it kindly. I will not attack you, but I may offer a reframe – this is challenging for people if they forget that I'm just trying to make the world a more loving place.
Keep your fantasies about me & anyone in my sphere to yourself.
Including podcast guests, my friends you think are hot, etc. And keep genitals covered.
Err on the side of checking in.
Practice using your sexy words if you have a question that isn't answered by the above guidelines.
Boundary pushing, rudeness, and agreement breaches result in blocking.
Please do not mistake my love for sex and friendliness for a desire to have sex with you, and please don't take this personally. Yes, I have crushes on most people, but crushes do not a good idea make.
Most of your questions are answered by poking the relevant links on this site.
I answer email on an artist's schedule.
I prioritize photography clients who have clearly read the photography page & urgent billing issues; beyond that, I don't topple my life to be on your schedule.
If you truly need to speak with me urgently, book a one-on-one.
Thank you for understanding.
I'm a creator & performer based in downtown Los Angeles.
I love art/working (especially with friends & fellow creatives), circles, being naked, asking very personal questions, croissants, Robert Heinlein, and staring at the moon.
Frequently asked questions
Why are you naked?
Do you imagine the entire world as a backdrop for nude shoots?
If only there weren't people around who would be offended? Yes oh yes, yes, yes.
Are you an exhibitionist?
Nope. I'm too consent-oriented, and the thought of accidetnally forcing anyone to witness anything they didn't choose is the opposite of a turn-on for me.
Are you a nudist/naturist?
Opportunistically, sure, culturally, I don't know enough about either movement to say. I don't go out of my way to find nude-only spaces, but I do hope to visit more of them someday, it's just not my top priority (like, I'd rather make a movie than vacation on a nude beach somewhere, though if I could combine the two, that would be ideal).
You're publicly nude...so are you a sex worker?
No, nudity ≠ sex work by default, though the fact that so many complete strangers operate with this mistaken assumption is, I would argue, all the more reason we need to understand nudity outside of sexual contexts.
Why do you wiggle every day?
It's a literal body-positive movement that I find incredibly delightful and silly, especially in contrast to my sexier nudes
It's a personal challenge for me to practice showing up publicly every day (live-streaming is actually *not* remotely comfy for me)
It's my every day committment to my wiggle movie, which is 4 projects deep on my backburner, but will arrive in time
Even on days that feel terrible, when I am exhausted, I can't help but smile
What do you mean, you "wiggle every day?"
Why did you shave your head?
Because I'm extremely practical and don't care about hair that much.
Should I introduce myself with a dick pic?
Would you whip your cock out to say hello to a stranger you think is cute at the grocery store? Hopefully your answer is no, never.
How SHOULD I talk to you, then?
Thank you so much for asking!