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erotic researcher, artist & creative guide
The best way to learn about sex? From primary sources.
On Sex Stories, everyday people and industry professionals to share their sex-related thoughts, experiences, desires and wisdom so we can co-create a world where taking care of each other is the norm.
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Let's make the world a sexier place.
Let’s lead better-laid lives.
Let's share sex stories.

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professional sex stories questions
In as much detail as you feel comfy, please share:
OVERVIEW
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If you had to rate yourself on a sexual shame-o-meter from 1 (shameless!) to 10 (so full of shame), where do you fall right now?
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What sort of sex talk, sex ed, or consent education did you get growing up?
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What is “sexy” to you?
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What do you think counts as “sex”?
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What's your sex-related work life like right now? Do you identify as a sex worker?
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Is there a sex story you can share that you’ve encountered because of your work that you probably never would’ve experienced otherwise?
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What do you love *most* about your work right now?
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What makes you excellent at what you do?
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What is your professional origin story?
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What’s a work day/week/month/year in the life like for you?
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What are some of the reactions you get when people learn what you do?
Details
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What are the sexiest and least sexy parts your work?
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What have you noticed or learned about sex-related shame through your work?
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How has your work influenced or informed your own sex life?
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What do the boundaries between your work life and personal life look like?
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How do you navigate boundaries with colleagues, clients and/or subcontractors?
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When it comes to talking about explicit or erotic topics in the course of your work, what is your communication like?
culture & the future
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What have you learned about social and cultural norms through your work that has surprised you?
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Are there any sex-related norms you’d like to shift?
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Since you began this work, have you noticed any sex-related trends in your area of industry? What about in your own business practices or personal life?
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What are you excited to explore or grow in your work going forward?
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If you could wave a magic wand and teach everyone something about sex, what would it be?
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Any other hot work-related sex stories to share?
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FANTASY BRAINSTORM: if you had an unlimited budget to build a sexy play room, house, castle etc—for yourself or to represent your brand—what would it be like?
personal sex stories questions
In as much detail as you feel comfy, please share:
OVERVIEW
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If you had to rate yourself on a sexual shame-o-meter from 1 (shameless!) to 10 (so full of shame), where do you fall right now?
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What's your sex life like right now? What’s your favorite part?
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What is “sexy” to you?
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When do you feel sexiest?
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What is “sex” for you?
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Did you ever get a helpful sexual education, an explicit health and safety talk or lesson in consent growing up?
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As an adult, can you give us an example of one time you said a very clear YES to something sexy that led to an awesome experience?
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What happens to your shame-o-meter when it's time to talk to your partner about safer sex?
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What’s your ideal way for a safer sex convo to unfold?
FORMATIVE
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What is your first sex-related memory?
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What were your early understandings of what sex was, or what it meant? When do you feel like you really understood what it was?
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How did the culture, religion, family values or friendships you grew up with influence your relationship to sex?
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What is the first sexual experience you remember having?
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When and how did you start touching yourself?
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When did you start touching other people?
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What formative experiences stand out in terms of kissing, touching, oral, penetration, or any other forms of erotic energy that were meaningful to your sexual self?
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What are your kinks? How did you discover them? What are your safety and negotiation practices like?
MANUAL DETAILS
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How and how often do you touch yourself now?
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How have your self-pleasure patterns changed over the years, if at all?
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What are some of your favorite ways to use your hands on a partner?
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What are your favorite ways to experience your partner’s hands?
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What sex toys do you use?
ORAL, penetration & orgasm
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What body parts do you enjoy performing oral on? What are your moves?
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What body parts do you enjoy receiving oral on? What are favorite moves from your partner?
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What kinds of penetration do you enjoy giving and/or receiving?
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What are ways you love and/or things you like or need to cum?
BODY FEELINGS
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What are your biggest turn-ons?
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Biggest turn-offs?
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What else does your body love?
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When do you feel most in touch with your body?
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What makes you feel desired and/or appreciated, sexually?
CULTURE
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What are your experiences with or fantasies about:
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sexting?
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sending or receiving nudes?
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watching porn?
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homemade porn?
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group sex?
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sex parties?
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sex clubs?
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sex dreams?
PAST, PRESENT & FUTURE
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What other fantasies or desires have you explored, or do you want to explore?
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Future hopes/goals/dreams for your sex life?
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Any other sexual disasters, triumphs, weird, unexpected, awkward, amazing things you can think of?
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Any other thoughts on sex in general or your own sex life?
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If you could go back and give a younger you sex advice, what age(s) would you pick and what would you say?
BONUS QUESTIONS
(answers in the Private Gallery or on Patreon)
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Do you have a sex question for me?